I remember moving out of my bubble wrapped life in the year 2010. It's been six long years and sometimes one needs to remind oneself of the boons and overlook the banes, in order to go further in his/her journey. Hence this is my attempt of boosting the morales of many a people, all of whom have left the first memory of familiarity behind in a safer place.
1) Patience is INDEED a virtue, only time is the solution to betterment of a few things/circumstances
No matter how much we try to capture the ever falling sands in our palms, the ticking clock just doesn't stop for anyone. As we try and struggle and feel impatient, we must understand and accept that battles are not won, successful strategies are not drafted and morbid events are not recovered from over a night. Many a tears, efforts and arguments may go into the making of something which is the bigger picture in the end. Forward movement is a process which needs to be done with an aim in mind.
2) Great education makes ALL the difference in the world
I consider myself nothing less than blessed, having been a part of some of the most excellent educational institutes in India. Education and independence are somethings my grandma always emphasized upon, and if the females of my family have been successful in anyway, it is only by believing in the vision that my grandmother had for us. Ensuring we all went to the best schools, studied and completed our work on time, and aimed at improvement even with a 92% in board exams was something she did proactively. Today, when I come across people in the big and modern city of Mumbai,who face a certain challenge with appropriate and correct grammar usage, the first thought to cross my mind is 'thank you nani'.
3) Sometimes the biggest problems are solved by a calming brief chat
Yes, I am a personal who gets hassled by work and it's unstoppable demands from me. I am that person who already tries to deliver more than promised, without being told to do so. Hence if the opposite party asks me to push myself further, it does make me spend sleepless nights thinking how can I give a 100% satisfactory output? I have realized 'workaholics in the making' have the above mentioned symptoms, hence before the panic button is pressed by me in my mind, I try to put it out there and get back any reaction which comes. In 10 out of 10 cases, the person's chilled out and take it easy attitude does the trick, reminding me- it is only a big deal if you make one out of it.
4) It is human to goof up, the world doesn't end there
Do we need to understand the gravity of certain situations? Yes.
Do we need to guilt trip ourselves over a small error? NO
Having beaten myself over and over again for the slightest mistakes, I realized it wasn't making any difference to anyone. The errors were all which could be redressed, there was no loss of life and it was looked into proactively. Beyond adopting corrective measure, it is truly upon us to react/respond to the problem at hand. We are allowed to be calm in a crisis, and move on after the moment has passed- IT IS GOING TO BE OKAY and besides, perfection is boring.
5) In the end my Darling, you've got to be your own hero
We were taught to be independent in our family, travel alone; complete our set of chores; be self sufficient in as many ways as possible but all of this with the strong backing of the beloved 'familia'. Yes I was the youngest, hence most mollycoddled as well but after stepping out I realised that it was time to grow up. Adulting took the longest time (I know for sure it will take years to master) but taking care of my own being was something which surprised me and continues to do so even now. Falling sick has been truly the worst till now, it makes me grumpy and cranky like a kid till but I realised and ultimately accepted that apart from your known and numbered loved ones, everyone else has a selfish/ulterior objective of functioning in this world.
1) Patience is INDEED a virtue, only time is the solution to betterment of a few things/circumstances
No matter how much we try to capture the ever falling sands in our palms, the ticking clock just doesn't stop for anyone. As we try and struggle and feel impatient, we must understand and accept that battles are not won, successful strategies are not drafted and morbid events are not recovered from over a night. Many a tears, efforts and arguments may go into the making of something which is the bigger picture in the end. Forward movement is a process which needs to be done with an aim in mind.
2) Great education makes ALL the difference in the world
I consider myself nothing less than blessed, having been a part of some of the most excellent educational institutes in India. Education and independence are somethings my grandma always emphasized upon, and if the females of my family have been successful in anyway, it is only by believing in the vision that my grandmother had for us. Ensuring we all went to the best schools, studied and completed our work on time, and aimed at improvement even with a 92% in board exams was something she did proactively. Today, when I come across people in the big and modern city of Mumbai,who face a certain challenge with appropriate and correct grammar usage, the first thought to cross my mind is 'thank you nani'.
3) Sometimes the biggest problems are solved by a calming brief chat
Yes, I am a personal who gets hassled by work and it's unstoppable demands from me. I am that person who already tries to deliver more than promised, without being told to do so. Hence if the opposite party asks me to push myself further, it does make me spend sleepless nights thinking how can I give a 100% satisfactory output? I have realized 'workaholics in the making' have the above mentioned symptoms, hence before the panic button is pressed by me in my mind, I try to put it out there and get back any reaction which comes. In 10 out of 10 cases, the person's chilled out and take it easy attitude does the trick, reminding me- it is only a big deal if you make one out of it.
4) It is human to goof up, the world doesn't end there
Do we need to understand the gravity of certain situations? Yes.
Do we need to guilt trip ourselves over a small error? NO
Having beaten myself over and over again for the slightest mistakes, I realized it wasn't making any difference to anyone. The errors were all which could be redressed, there was no loss of life and it was looked into proactively. Beyond adopting corrective measure, it is truly upon us to react/respond to the problem at hand. We are allowed to be calm in a crisis, and move on after the moment has passed- IT IS GOING TO BE OKAY and besides, perfection is boring.
5) In the end my Darling, you've got to be your own hero
We were taught to be independent in our family, travel alone; complete our set of chores; be self sufficient in as many ways as possible but all of this with the strong backing of the beloved 'familia'. Yes I was the youngest, hence most mollycoddled as well but after stepping out I realised that it was time to grow up. Adulting took the longest time (I know for sure it will take years to master) but taking care of my own being was something which surprised me and continues to do so even now. Falling sick has been truly the worst till now, it makes me grumpy and cranky like a kid till but I realised and ultimately accepted that apart from your known and numbered loved ones, everyone else has a selfish/ulterior objective of functioning in this world.
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